Pastor, blogger, and author Kevin DeYoung just released a new book called Crazy Busy. In chapter six, he discusses the tyranny of business that our current cultural attitudes toward parenting produce. Here is an excerpt:
“As nanny parents living in a nanny state, we think of our children as amazingly fragile and entirely moldable. Both assumptions are mistaken. It’s harder to ruin our kids than we think and harder to stamp them for success than we’d like. Christian parents in particular often operate with an implicit determinism. We fear that a few wrong moves will ruin our children forever, and at the same time assume that the right combination of protection and instruction will invariably produce godly children. Leslie Leyland Fields is right: “One of the most resilient and cherished myths of parenting is that parenting creates the child(68).”
I know that in my own parenting I often feel guilty that I’m not doing enough of “this” or doing too much of “that,” but the reality is that what I am really doing is trying to play God with my child. What I really need is to trust that God is sovereign and that he is using my brokenness to produce the person that he would have my daughter be. I don’t need better parenting skills, I need to rest in God’s sovereign!
You can pick up a copy of DeYoung’s book on sale here: Crazy Busy: A (Mercifully) Short Book about a (Really) Big Problem